I truly do feel that no matter what relationship you fall into and no matter what man you date, you will always be tested. A man is always going to test how much he can get away with things just like a woman would too. I say this because I want to reiterate the importance of holding yourself to a standard. If something doesn’t sit well with you about something he did, the way you two communicate about it is how a man decides if he can be with you. Having an open policy of communication and making sure it’s reciprocated is important to a man and a woman. Also, showing that you value and respect him is huge! So, raising your voice or subjecting him to insults isn’t something that sits well with a man. This is something that will not only bruise his ego, it will also show that there may be some instabilities that arise with you. Generally speaking, when this happens a man might not break up with you right away, but he will begin to feel less enthusiastic about the relationship. You will eventually begin to feel him drift away until he bows.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s vital that you don’t dump on all your insecurities on him. If you had an ex-boyfriend that cheated on you, it doesn’t mean that this boyfriend is going to cheat on you as well. He doesn’t deserve to be penalized because of what someone else did to you in the past. Being able to define whether an issue you bring to him is coming from an insecurity or if it’s coming from something that truly was developed between you and him is key. When a woman is able to take her time and pinpoint where this problem is coming from, the man can see that she is mature and can be a balanced partner.
It also subconsciously gives him the opportunity to continue to be open and show up as the best version of himself that he can be! How many times do you hear men saying that they can’t tell their girlfriend something because she will get mad? When a man is being honest with you, try not to take offense to it. Just breathe and be thankful that he is coming from a place of honesty. Detach yourself from the expectation you had and bring light and love to this situation. The moment you do this is, you will begin to grow as a couple.
Are you experiencing difficulties in RELATIONSHIP?
Share your story with us and let’s help you with tips from EXPERTS around the world CLICK HERE